Stop Being Cruel To Kids

Dear Girls, 

 It’s a shame how hard society is on children and teenagers who are the most fragile and susceptible to developing body image issues and mental disorders. Upon seeing a picture of myself at 16 today, I realized just how average and thin (compared to now) I was.

Now I was never skinny, but I was very, very average. Yet people, adults and peers alike, were good at reminding me that I was not skinny. I was constantly reminded that I was on the larger side, constantly told how “worried” they were about me, constantly being put down and called cruel things by some classmates, and even sometimes by family.

I see pictures of myself from back then and god do I wish that I had the body positivity that I have now. I’m twice the size I was then and I’m happier with myself than I ever dreamed I could be.
And in being happier, I’m making healthier choices in order to better myself, instead of punishing myself. There was never anything wrong with me, but I was told so often that I was unhealthy and unappealing that I was never happy.

Why on earth would people be so cruel to kids? Please reinforce to your (current and/or future) children that they are beautiful. That there is never anything wrong with them or with nourishing their body. Teach them to be kind to others. Teach them healthy habits - mental health included - and do not raise them to believe that they are worth anything less than the entire world.

Have a fantastic Saturday my loves.

Love Always,
Seema Sammy. 

You Are Worthy!

Dear Girls,

You are worthy and amazing right now. You just need to remember who you are, and let go of all the false beliefs you've taken on. Mary Oliver says it better that I ever could...


"You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air
are heading home agaian.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination.
calls you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting-
over and over announcing your place in the family of things."
-Mary Oliver.


Have a wonderful day my loves.

Love Always,
Seema Sammy.

 Dear Girls,

Here's a little something to start your day :)

"Laughter and tears are both responses to frustration and exhaustion. I myself prefer to laugh, since there is less cleaning up to do afterward." - Kurt Vonnegut

This has always been a favorite quote of mine, because it kinda sums up a philosophy I've always had. Sure, there are times you need to cry and just get it all out. I like laughing though, if I can, because I tend to feel better afterwards. The past few days I've been feeling pretty disgusted and frustrated with everything. However, this constant state of frustration and stress was having a snowball effect to where every little thing bothered me. This has been one of those situations where crying isn't helping anymore. So last night I took a big step back from those emotions, chilled out, went to the gym and watched some inspirational YouTube videos . Now I am ready to laugh, because I had gotten pretty tired of all that cleaning up afterwards :).

Love Always,
Seema Sammy.

My Opinion Matters!

Growing up people would tell me that I needed to look a certain way, that I needed to lose weight to look beautiful. That I wasn't good enough because I was FAT, yes I used the 'F' word. They would never give me  a chance, they would assume because I'm fat then I can't be ambitious or I wouldn't get anywhere in life. None of my dreams deserve to come true because I am fat. I know this is FUCKING ridiculous but I believed them. I believe that I wouldn't be able to achieve anything.

And for years I've hated myself because no matter how hard I try to look the way society wanted me to look, I couldn't look that way. I started gym, went on crazy diets trying to stave myself, among other stuff. 

The craziest thing was whenever I would see people I haven't seen in a while, first thing they would say is 'you haven't lost any weight?', aren't you doing anything about it?' and then my weight would be the hot topic of that encounter. I mean come on don't you wanna know how I've been doing at school, or if I have a promotion  at work, or I don't know how my fucking day went??? And for years I thought this was the right way for them to treat me because I was FAT. And even if I was doing great in my life, that wouldn't matter because guess what, I was FAT. 

To those people, I say #EffYourBeautyStandards. Eff what you think about me. At the end of the day, you're mad about who I am but I am happy about who I am. And my opinion about myself is the only one that matters darling.

Love,

Seema Sammy. 

Who Am I?

Hello there,  even though I'm not in front of a crowded room of people, I still feel awkward introducing myself. Introducing one's self is so much pressure. I'm suppose to tell you who I am and I don't even know who I am yet. I'm still figuring out myself. What do I say to you? What is appropriate? What is acceptable? Those are the thoughts gushing through my mind. Anyways, here we go.

My name is Seema Sammy born in Suriname, grew up in Guyana and currently living in New York. I just turned 24 and I'm working as a Video Editor. I have a calling for storytelling hence, my job as a video editor. A dream of mine is to be a filmmaker but I don't know how my life will play out so until then I'm a happy dreamer.

I'm a girl by the way if you don't already know and I'm also plus-sized. I've struggle with my weight for my entire life. I recently realized with the help of a few influential public figures and You tubers that being plus sized is not equivalent to unhappiness. I started looking at the positive things about my life and stop dwelling on 'numbers'. I use to think that those 'numbers' define who I am or what I can accomplished. I've recently hopped on the Body positivity train and I would love to share my experiences. 

I'm aware that being plus size is difficult, not because we make it that way but because people around us can't stand that we can be happy and FAT. They feel the need to point it out and then proceed to tell us how to fix it. It is especially harder when you're Indian (Caribbean/ West Indians).  They think that everyone should look a certain way. If you don't look like that then you need to do something to fix it  and they compare you to everyone who fit the perfect description. It was arduous growing up knowing that you're not doing it the right way and that you NEED to lose weight before you can be considered Beautiful. 


One of the main reasons for starting this blog is to empower young girls whether you're from the Caribbean or right here in the US. I know my stories, experiences and struggle will relate to many of you. I want you to know that you're not alone. I strive to be someone that I wish I had to talk too when I was growing up. Someone to encourage me. Someone to let me know that I will be okay. Someone to let me know that my body type wouldn't measure success. Someone to let me know that I can BE myself. I want to be that SOMEONE to you. 

There will be weekly blogs uploaded here, so do not hesitate to message me on any social media platform and I will definitely answer your questions to the best of my abilities. 


Love Always, 
Seema Sammy.