Miss Moving On

Dear Girls, 

Look at you, make up fucked up from crying.

After you gave that fuckboy one last chance, again.

And you were played for a fool, again. When will you learn, when will enough be enough? Your heart can only take so much you know, from the sadness in your eyes I'd say you've reached your limit. I know it's hard to see through those tears, I know it's hard to accept that you have to let go of all the time you spent, all the wasted years. But you're still so young, so beautiful, so full of life and no matter what he's taken from you, how badly you let him destroy you he can never take your heart away from you. Broken and bruised but that shit still works, it still finds a way to beat, finds a way to keep surviving. You will too.I promise you the world isn't over yet and you've still got a whole lot of living to do, maybe even a few more heart breaks to endure and lessons to learn. Appreciate it all, there's beauty in the chaos and there is something to be appreciated in every aspect of life.

Dry those tears, fix that crown, and hold your head high while you pick up the broken pieces and keep it moving. 

Love Always, 

Seema Sammy. 

Update!

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Dear Girls, 

I've been in a very happy place lately and today's blog will be very casual. I didn't write a draft first, I just sat down and started writing what I'm feeling, there's no editing, I won't google a word to use in place of another. This blog is very raw and precise, might be boring. 

The thing is, our life doesn't depend on a another person to make us happy. We have to be our own happiness and when we've achieved that, then whoever comes in our life and add to that happiness will be an added bonus. Sometimes someone comes in your life and suddenly everything changes, they raise your standards, makes you laugh more, make you feel comfortable. There is something about them you can't exactly put in words but you just thank God for sending them in your life. 

From the moment you started talking to them, you knew that you wanted them around. It is so easy to be yourself around them, you didn't have to try hard, the conversations just flowed and everything else followed. I feel like everything in my life has led me to them. My choices, my heart breaks, my regrets, everything. And when we're together, my past seems worth it because had I done one thing differently I might never have met them or appreciate everything thing they have done for me. 

I hope everyone's having a lovely Sunday. 

Love Always, 

Seema Sammy. 

Dear Girls, 

 As you guys are aware, Valentine's Day is creeping up on us and obviously those of us in love are scrambling to get gifts for our partners. That's our first thought whenever an occasion as such arises. Now don't get me wrong but there was a time when we were free… or free-er. When people weren’t products, and to enjoy them, you didn’t need your wallet. When the first thought that came to mind to show someone how great and how deep and how true your love goes, was not “What should I get them?” but rather “What will I give them?”

   I was researching ways to show someone you love them without spending money and I found this article by Andrea Balt. Read up and don't buy love, give love! 

 5 Ways to Say I Love You Without Money.

 There was a time when love and money hadn’t met.

There was a time when we were free… or free-er. When people weren’t products, and to enjoy them, you didn’t need your wallet. When the first thought that came to mind to show someone how great and how deep and how true your love goes, was not “What should I get them?” but rather “What will I give them?”

Let’s understand the difference:

GETTING something for someone, implies acquiring an object or experience you don’t own, for which you must exchange an established currency (a.k.a. meaningless paper), which you have obtained in a previous exchange, for your time and effort, which you then pass on to the person you love as a physical symbol of that love. It begins with YOU (you are time) it goes through IT (the work you do with your time), then another IT (the money you get for the work), and yet another IT (the object you get for the money) and finally lands in your loved one’s hands. That’s a lot of intermediaries…

GIVING something from what you already have (that is, what you are) implies that the gift is a part of you, and that you will give away that piece of you for no reason, no need, no utility or purpose other than… just because. It’s not necessary, not required, not a must, should, would, could. Like the ultimate essence and point of love — is just IS.

But what if it does? 

 In a world where living without money is almost inconceivable, and where our DNA has already mutated to include a money gene, most of us haven’t really learned (or been taught) the true meaning of giving, and even harder, the art of receiving.
And despite all my (always urgent) needs and crises, worries, stress and gratitude for THINGS, it’s this type of love, the one that transcends THINGS — I’d like to get more of, learn more about, and give more often.

To expand our humanity further into the Being rather than Having, here are five free and totally unnecessary, non-useful, non-efficient, unexpected and 100% human ways to say: I fucking love you! — to the person or people you can’t live without.

1. Turn them into art.

Write a song, a story, a poem — even an article — about or inspired by them. If you can draw or paint, draw them, paint them. Give them a place in your art. Turn them into your Muse. This is one of the highest honors you can give to the person you love. If this person also practices some kind of art, he / she will value this gesture more than anything you can possibly get with money.
Your art is the most sacred place you go to, your true country. Taking the person you love with you, and giving them a little house of their own in that country is unforgettable. Among artists, this is the highest form of devotion. Art never dies. And by capturing the person you love inside that art, you offer them a piece of eternity, reflecting back at them, through your own eyes. You make them iconic and immortal by reminding them of their true infinite nature.

2. Craft something for them.

Build a gift with your hands. Not necessarily to represent them, but to use it in some way, even if just to decorate. This is different from turning them into the object of your art, or from getting them something they need. In this scenario, what matters is that you initiate the communication process — you are the maestro.
Whatever use they end up giving to your craft, the point is that it came from your own hands and it was exclusively designed and created for them by you. It has your fingerprints all over it.

3. Make it more complicated.

Simple is fine for everyday efficiency, but only as long as it’s seduced by the extraordinary. You can’t have one without the other. So orchestrate an event, a surprise, a chain message to deliver your love, something out of the ordinary, at least once a week, or every full moon, or whenever it’s been too long since your last trip to Wonderland.
Par Example:

– Deliver your message by bits and pieces. Let your loved one connect the dots. Have a few different people call the person you love and each of them share one part of your message. You can also do this via email. Just make sure each sentence or word is delivered in the right order and at the right time.

– Create a treasure hunt around the office or the house. The “treasure” can be a “shared coupon” for a wild night, a home cooked dinner, an epic hike, a dance, a camping getaway, the movie you never have time to watch together on the couch with homemade popcorn, a long bath, a massage… or any other you & me activity.

– Act it out. Role playing and storytelling — that is, making up fun stories and acting in them, in public or in private — allows for a deeper interaction to take place, an intimacy that may be limited by your “real” assimilated roles. Role playing also helps you give up your attachment to a certain idea of how things and people ought to be — by freeing you both from the fixed roles you may have each subconsciously adopted.

The point of these “complications” is to restore play. Since it is play that sustains and inspires work. Play is in a long term relationship with imagination. It conspires with the universe by letting in new possibilities — because, after all it’s just play, what can you lose? Work will later make sure to complete what Play has already set in motion. You need to be a child first.
Tom Robbins said it best:

Humanity has advanced, when it has advanced, not because it has been sober, responsible, and cautious, but because it has been playful, rebellious, and immature. (Still Life with Woodpecker)

4. Cook for them.

You may not realize how much this means and how deep it goes. Food is the most direct, profound, and intimate conversation we have with our own body. We ingest nutrients that literally become a part of us. Nothing requires more trust than the act of eating.
Trusting something enough to swallow it, is the greatest act of self-surrender. Our outside is designed to protect us: our skin is the largest organ in our body and a true warrior; our senses are always alert, and our entire outer self has one eye open all the time. Yet, the inside is so fragile and vulnerable that the smallest unidentified object you let in, can turn your gut world upside down. Your inside trusts that your outside will make the right choices and protect it.
So if eating is the most intimate, vulnerable and trusting act of the body, so is receiving that piece of food from the person you love.
It doesn’t matter if you don’t know how to cook. Any human being can learn the most simple recipe online — and even if it tastes like crap, what matters here is the exchange of aliveness and vulnerability between two subjects. It matters that you tried and somehow, magically, this simple act of trusting and being trusted, often turns your crap into gold. Not always though, so make some salad first, it can’t go wrong. 

5. Drop everything and spend quality time with them, ASAP.

With or without a treasure hunt. Make it a priority to give the person or people you love your full presence and undivided attention for at least an hour every day. You think it’s easy? Unless you’re high on dopamine (a feel-good addictive substance released by the brain especially in the early stages of being in love), spending quality time with the person you love is one of the most challenging aspects of a relationship, especially if you’re like the 99% of humans: BUSY. It almost makes you wonder why you are in a relationship to begin with.
Maybe it’s because in addition to being hard it’s also one of the few phenomenons you deem life changing and worth fighting for. As one of my favorite humans who ever wrote on Earth, Rainer Maria Rilke put it,

For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.

So what do women want? What do men want?

It’s simple, they want YOU.

Just you, without life-sucking intermediaries. And your ultimate question, when trying to figure out How to Love Him / Her / Them should be, How can I offer them My Truest Self and How can I receive their Truest Self in return, so that we can enjoy each other? It’s that simple. And that hard.
Love is the most ancient, sacred and sublime communication process. It begins with a subject, it delivers a message that passes through a medium and it is then received by another subject. So the purpose of love is not the medium through which it passes, and ultimately, not even the message.
It’s the subjects that are sending and receiving the message, who create the love. And all they want deep down is to enjoy each other. Everything else is secondary, as long as the two (or more) subjects are communicating.


 Hope this helps in some way.

Love Always,
Seema Sammy. 

How to look younger

Dear Girls, 

So today I was baffled as I had no idea what my blog post was going to be about. I was bored at work and if you've had any experience in video editing, you would know that after you're done editing your video, you have to export it and this process could take from 3 to 4 hours. Obviously as a delightful employee, I was on tumblr and I came across this post on how to look younger than your age and I must say I was intrigued. The writer mentioned some wonderful tips that I think could actually work. Enjoy!


1. Choose clothes with bright colors

Bright colors will greatly affect your appearance. Do not be too frequent use of dark colors just because they want to look slim. Look slim is not necessarily influenced by the color. Design and pieces of clothing are also a big influence. But the brightly colored clothes always gives the impression that the younger you.

Choosing a bright color clothes sometimes be difficult for you. The fear was too ‘flirty’ would never arise. Do not worry about it excessively. Just search for bright colors that match your skin. Match the same design and shape your body. Age you will look younger 2-3 years.

2. Do not forget to drink tea

Tea contains antioxidants. The benefits are health care for your skin. Helps prevent wrinkles and premature aging. Tea also helps care for the beauty of the body. Tea gives a sense of relaxed and comfortable for your body. Justify you have benefited very much from this tea. 

3. Short Hair Style

This one thing you know a big impact. Do not ever ignore this important case. Do not be too afraid to cut your hair short. Short hair styles in addition to practical, it also gives the impression of more fresh. Of course you must be clever to choose a model. Try searching for some short hair styles. Consult your subscription at the salon. Add attractive colors and fit for your skin. Do not be afraid to experiment. 

4. Always stand up and sit in an upright position

Standing and sitting in an upright position is good for you. In addition to maintaining the stability of the body. Body shape is also influenced by your movement. If we are sluggish, often bent so your bones will gradually follow. Sitting in an upright position also affects the abdominal form you know. Few hold your stomach when sitting. Do it continuously. Your stomach will be slimmer. Not believe? Please prove it first. 

5. Youthful smile is a drug most efficacious

Drugs will not make us lose, do not need money, and is not addictive smile. Plenty of smiles. 1000 will bring a smile every second of our youth. There is no harm in it your first smile at people you meet on the street. In addition to youth, adding new relations as well. 

6. Chewing gum as facial gymnastics

Many people do gymnastics in hopes of reducing facial wrinkles on the face. You can do it yourself. Wherever and whenever. The trick? Like candy right? Yes. Chewing can reduce the tedium, and you always need to keep the freshness of breath. Try changing your candy with gum. Chewing is a great activity for facial gymnastics. Can be done at leisure, at work, on the road. Do not disturb others. And do not take your busy time. 

7. Walking extend life

Walking good for your body. In addition to improving blood flow in the body, on foot also trains your muscles. Muscles that often gets exercise makes you look more refreshed, and triggers the feeling of pleasure and comfort. So you can look fresh, healthy and youthful. 

Let’s try all these easy tips. Who does not want to stay young and look younger?

 Hope you like it. 

Love Always, 

Seema Sammy. 

Message To Your Ex

Dear Girls, 

Message to My Ex. 

Please don't talk to me now. I have my life together now. I've fallen in love again, and this time, it's with myself. Your name never crosses my mind. Your memory no longer has a home in my heart. I'm finally happy after all these months of you wasting my time and wasting my heart. I am breaking free from you. I am done with you. So please, when you're lonely at 9 PM because all your friends are hooking up, don't look for me. So when you see me dancing at a party and having the time of my life, don't look at me as the 'one who got away' . Look at me as the 'one whom you let go'. Look at the girl who has pieced herself back together after you shattered her.

Have a great day my loves.

Love Always,
Seema Sammy.

Learning to Accept Love

Dear Girls, 

Before I start writing my blog, I'll like to apologize to the people that read my blog for not being consistent . Please bare with me as I figure out a schedule that works best.

Sometimes our emotions can get the best of us, they can drag us so far down to where we forget just what it is that once made us happy. Small steps they say, small steps to a happier road, well what if the road on which we walk is far too bumpy? No one can tell you that the feelings you have are wrong. For years I’ve struggled with people that don’t understand my pain, my hurt, my frustration, but I don’t blame them. Not everyone will feel as deeply about the things that you do, I try my very best to tell myself this, but to no avail I seem to foolishly fall back into my habits. These habits are habitually pushing people away, being angry, and sometimes overcome with an overwhelming sense of melancholy.

Is it normal to be chronically sad? To always feel like you’re going to burst at the seems and just fucking explode because you’ve constantly held back emotions that were far too strong just to shove away. Welcome to my mind, where I’m convinced that I feel nothing at all, where I can pretend that all I care about is myself, but then my heart has to remind me that I’m too sympathetic and emotional to be this bad ass that I sometimes portray myself to be. I feel too much, that’s my problem. 

There’s a place in my mind where sad memories dwell, they stay locked away, but ever so often they come out to play and plague my never resting thoughts. What is it like to be calm and collected ? To never feel rejected, to smile and actually mean it ? To be loved and actually feel it ? I’m learning to accept love, it’s not an easy task when you feel so undeserving of affection……

Love Always, 

Seema Sammy.

This Past Year

Dear Girls, 

Well, here I am...writing on my blog again.....what a weird feeling. Sorry I've been incognito for a while. I'm going to try to update this more often and try to be consistent.

In the past year:

- I've learned what's it's like to be on your own ; taking care of bills, putting food on the table, being away from your family, being responsible and most importantly being independent.

-I've learned that in some ways I compromise way more than I ever thought I would. Some of these compromises aren't a big deal. And others I know I need to start standing up for what's right more often.


-I've learned that satisfaction comes from working hard and paving your own way.

-But I've also learned that money isn't everything.

-I've learned that I have a long way to go, but I'm a very lucky girl, with all the people who love me no matter what and would do anything to help me. My parents, good friends, and especially God. I would be lost without Him.

- I've learned that being alone with your own thoughts isn't so bad. You don't need to always be surrounded by people.

-Ive learned that people will be nice to you when it's convenient for them and for as long as they are benefiting from being around you.

- I've learned to take risks, maybe something beautiful will come of it or I might have the worst heartbreak ever. So exciting, either way I'll learn.

- I've learned to DO ME and not have second thoughts. People will talk regardless.

Anyway, here's a lovely disjointed post for you. I'll work on this organization thing later.


Have a wonderful day my loves.

Love Always,
Seema Sammy. 

Stop Being Cruel To Kids

Dear Girls, 

 It’s a shame how hard society is on children and teenagers who are the most fragile and susceptible to developing body image issues and mental disorders. Upon seeing a picture of myself at 16 today, I realized just how average and thin (compared to now) I was.

Now I was never skinny, but I was very, very average. Yet people, adults and peers alike, were good at reminding me that I was not skinny. I was constantly reminded that I was on the larger side, constantly told how “worried” they were about me, constantly being put down and called cruel things by some classmates, and even sometimes by family.

I see pictures of myself from back then and god do I wish that I had the body positivity that I have now. I’m twice the size I was then and I’m happier with myself than I ever dreamed I could be.
And in being happier, I’m making healthier choices in order to better myself, instead of punishing myself. There was never anything wrong with me, but I was told so often that I was unhealthy and unappealing that I was never happy.

Why on earth would people be so cruel to kids? Please reinforce to your (current and/or future) children that they are beautiful. That there is never anything wrong with them or with nourishing their body. Teach them to be kind to others. Teach them healthy habits - mental health included - and do not raise them to believe that they are worth anything less than the entire world.

Have a fantastic Saturday my loves.

Love Always,
Seema Sammy. 

You're Doing a Good Job.

Dear Girls, 

Shout out to all the transgender kids who have unsupportive families towards their identity.

To the ones who came out today.
To the ones who can’t come out.
To the ones who can’t dress how they want because of that.
To all the ones who aren’t financially stable enough for surgery.
To all the male to female kids. You’re fucking beautiful.
To all the female to male kids. You’re so handsome.
To all the genderfluid kids, You’re beautiful and handsome, you go.
To all the ones who constantly get misgendered. It hurts like hell, I know.
You’re still valid.
You are still valid.
Shout out to all the kids that didn't take their life today, and if you need a sign not to.. this is it. I’m here for you.
To the ones whose  families don’t believe that they’re not okay.
To the ones who got out of bed, that’s great.
and shout out to the ones who didn’t, that’s great too.
To the ones who ate today, good job.
And to the ones who are still fighting, look at you. You’re all fantastic. I promise it’s gonna get better.

 Have a fantastic day my loves.

Love Always,
Seema Sammy.

It's a Journey

Dear Girls, 

I suffered with the ins and outs of eating disorder for a long time. I have my down days, but I'm definitely much more body positive than I use to be. 

I think that loving yourself is one of the most radical things you can do in a world constantly telling you it's wrong to do so. You don't need to be corrected. You don't need to think you're amazing all the time either. It's a journey and that's what is beautiful.

At least, that's what's been beautiful for me. I still get anxious or sad; but I'm always me and I'm pretty happy with that. I'm more than a number on a scale or how little tape I can wrap around my waist. 

Have a wonderful my loves.

Love Always, 

Seema Sammy.

A WOMAN’S WORTH

Dear Girls, 

Please take a few minutes to read this! So worth it! 

A WOMAN’S WORTH

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: 'What kind of man are you looking for?' She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, 'Do you really want to know?' Reluctantly, he said, 'Yes. She began to expound, 'As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what you can do for me that I can't do for myself? I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man... or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, 'What can you bring to the table?' The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.

She quickly corrected his thought & stated, 'I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life. He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain. She said, 'I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man. I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden. I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man. I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God. I need someone whom I can respect... In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. And by the way, I am not looking for him...He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself.

When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, 'You are asking a lot. She replied, "I'm worth a lot".

Author- Unknown.

Have a wonderful day my loves! 

Love Always, 

Seema Sammy.

You Always Pass Failure On Your Way To Success.

 

 Dear Girls,

  It's never too late to start over. If you weren't happy with yesterday, try something different today. Don't stay stuck. Do better.

What's your take on FAILURE?

How do you respond to a  bump in the road? 

My dad is wonderful man who has instilled many valuable life lessons in us while we were growing up.

One of his most important life lesson has always been 'if you ever experience a flat, don't slash the other tires'. The rest of the tires will take you far enough to get the flat fixed. 

As I got older I realized that today’s society is obsessed with success and achievement but failure is seen as weakness. 

When it comes to failure, if you avoid making mistakes in your life and avoid all the road blocks in life, then living and experiencing a successful and happy life is going to be impossible to attain.

Embrace your failure whether it is one or many because with the right attitude you're guaranteed a lifetime of success.

One of my favorite quotes on failure is by Mickey Rooney, "You always pass failure on your way to success". 

Have a wonderful Friday! Keep moving forward, never stay stuck!

Love Always,
Seema Sammy.

Accept Yourself

 

Dear Girls, 

Stop trying to please everyone except yourself.  

AlI that's on my mind is how much I’ve let myself down trying to lift everyone else up. I’ve made this mistake so many times before, but lately it hurts my heart more than usual. I’ve realized just how harmful being too selfless can be.

I love helping others. I lend my ear to sad souls who just want to be heard, or at least they paint a picture as such. I lend my heart to empty people that can never seem to reciprocate my love for them. You’d think after years of constant disappointment I'd learn, I don’t. I learn but I never listen. 

I guess what I’m saying is, stop trying to please everyone except yourself, ACCEPT YOURSELF, learn to value your own heart and let God help you help yourself. It’s okay to be selfish, I have to constantly remind myself…. ITS OK TO BE SELFISH. 

Love always, 

Seema Sammy. 

You get in return, what you give.

 

Dear Girls,

     "Be a reflection of what you'd like to see in others."

 I've complained so much about people not giving me what I deserve based on what I'd do for them in a heartbeat. I'm sure you guys have been in this boat too and you're probably settling with what you get.

I've gained so much knowledge with age. Age has given me what I was looking for my entire life - it has given me, ME.  It has provided time and experience and failures and triumphs and time-tested friends who have helped me step into the shape that was waiting for me. You’ll learn, as you get older that you get in return, what you give.

If you want love, give love.
If you want honesty, give honesty.
If you want respect, give respect.


Love Always,
Seema Sammy. 

You Are Worthy!

Dear Girls,

You are worthy and amazing right now. You just need to remember who you are, and let go of all the false beliefs you've taken on. Mary Oliver says it better that I ever could...


"You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air
are heading home agaian.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination.
calls you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting-
over and over announcing your place in the family of things."
-Mary Oliver.


Have a wonderful day my loves.

Love Always,
Seema Sammy.

 Dear Girls,

Here's a little something to start your day :)

"Laughter and tears are both responses to frustration and exhaustion. I myself prefer to laugh, since there is less cleaning up to do afterward." - Kurt Vonnegut

This has always been a favorite quote of mine, because it kinda sums up a philosophy I've always had. Sure, there are times you need to cry and just get it all out. I like laughing though, if I can, because I tend to feel better afterwards. The past few days I've been feeling pretty disgusted and frustrated with everything. However, this constant state of frustration and stress was having a snowball effect to where every little thing bothered me. This has been one of those situations where crying isn't helping anymore. So last night I took a big step back from those emotions, chilled out, went to the gym and watched some inspirational YouTube videos . Now I am ready to laugh, because I had gotten pretty tired of all that cleaning up afterwards :).

Love Always,
Seema Sammy.

 

Dear Girls,

I know from experience that not a lot of us experienced love and encouragement people from the people around us. Most of the time they lash out at us for the way we look. This comes from people who we love and would do anything for. What baffles me is I don't know if they're intentionally hurting me or not. I like to think that they have my best interest at heart and lashing out is their way of helping me. But I've since learned that those people are assholes, yes they could be your parent as a matter of fact. At least for me it was a parent,  most of my teen years were spent with my mother comparing me to every kid in the neighborhood. 'Why can't you look like that girl (girl from my neighborhood)?' she would say. 'Do you see any young girl your age that looks like you' or 'You're too fat, no guy would want you'.  She would say 'don't eat that', 'don't eat this' and would try to embarrass me even when people were around.

My mom thought that embarrassing me would convince me to make drastic lifestyle change and that I'd probably turn into model. No! that didn't happen. What happened though was I'd stress eat because food was my comfort. Food filled that void she caused from hurting and bashing me. She wasn't helping me at all. Instead, she made it worse. I'm not blaming her for becoming over-weight, I did that on my own. I'm just saying she's one of the influences.

Anyways, the point I wanted to get across to you guys is that you should build up the people around you and make them feel loved. Not just loved, encourage them, believe in them and support them. Sometimes people don't see their own worth so please don't be one of the influences to that. They need a little reminder. Tell them about the potential you see in them. Tell them how worthy they are. Let them know you believe in them. Show your support. Most of all let them know you'll always be there for them, that you'll always be a shoulder to lean on. Everyone deserves that positivity and reassurance in their life.

And lastly, I am in no way speaking ill of my mom. I love her, because of her I've become the woman I am today. I thank her because now I can share my experiences and ultimately help someone. I've look at my experiences as stepping stones because I am using them to help young girls or whoever maybe be going through this.

Keep exuding positive energy!

Love always,
Seema Sammy.

My Opinion Matters!

Growing up people would tell me that I needed to look a certain way, that I needed to lose weight to look beautiful. That I wasn't good enough because I was FAT, yes I used the 'F' word. They would never give me  a chance, they would assume because I'm fat then I can't be ambitious or I wouldn't get anywhere in life. None of my dreams deserve to come true because I am fat. I know this is FUCKING ridiculous but I believed them. I believe that I wouldn't be able to achieve anything.

And for years I've hated myself because no matter how hard I try to look the way society wanted me to look, I couldn't look that way. I started gym, went on crazy diets trying to stave myself, among other stuff. 

The craziest thing was whenever I would see people I haven't seen in a while, first thing they would say is 'you haven't lost any weight?', aren't you doing anything about it?' and then my weight would be the hot topic of that encounter. I mean come on don't you wanna know how I've been doing at school, or if I have a promotion  at work, or I don't know how my fucking day went??? And for years I thought this was the right way for them to treat me because I was FAT. And even if I was doing great in my life, that wouldn't matter because guess what, I was FAT. 

To those people, I say #EffYourBeautyStandards. Eff what you think about me. At the end of the day, you're mad about who I am but I am happy about who I am. And my opinion about myself is the only one that matters darling.

Love,

Seema Sammy. 

Who Am I?

Hello there,  even though I'm not in front of a crowded room of people, I still feel awkward introducing myself. Introducing one's self is so much pressure. I'm suppose to tell you who I am and I don't even know who I am yet. I'm still figuring out myself. What do I say to you? What is appropriate? What is acceptable? Those are the thoughts gushing through my mind. Anyways, here we go.

My name is Seema Sammy born in Suriname, grew up in Guyana and currently living in New York. I just turned 24 and I'm working as a Video Editor. I have a calling for storytelling hence, my job as a video editor. A dream of mine is to be a filmmaker but I don't know how my life will play out so until then I'm a happy dreamer.

I'm a girl by the way if you don't already know and I'm also plus-sized. I've struggle with my weight for my entire life. I recently realized with the help of a few influential public figures and You tubers that being plus sized is not equivalent to unhappiness. I started looking at the positive things about my life and stop dwelling on 'numbers'. I use to think that those 'numbers' define who I am or what I can accomplished. I've recently hopped on the Body positivity train and I would love to share my experiences. 

I'm aware that being plus size is difficult, not because we make it that way but because people around us can't stand that we can be happy and FAT. They feel the need to point it out and then proceed to tell us how to fix it. It is especially harder when you're Indian (Caribbean/ West Indians).  They think that everyone should look a certain way. If you don't look like that then you need to do something to fix it  and they compare you to everyone who fit the perfect description. It was arduous growing up knowing that you're not doing it the right way and that you NEED to lose weight before you can be considered Beautiful. 


One of the main reasons for starting this blog is to empower young girls whether you're from the Caribbean or right here in the US. I know my stories, experiences and struggle will relate to many of you. I want you to know that you're not alone. I strive to be someone that I wish I had to talk too when I was growing up. Someone to encourage me. Someone to let me know that I will be okay. Someone to let me know that my body type wouldn't measure success. Someone to let me know that I can BE myself. I want to be that SOMEONE to you. 

There will be weekly blogs uploaded here, so do not hesitate to message me on any social media platform and I will definitely answer your questions to the best of my abilities. 


Love Always, 
Seema Sammy.