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Thursday, May 5, 2016

How To Spot A Player

Dear Girls, 

I don't claim to know everything but I am very updated with today's dating scene and what happens in majority of relationships. Also try watching some YouTube story-time  videos about relationships and you'll be up to date. Anyways, the point I am trying to make is have you ever been totally into a guy that you just met, only to find out days or weeks later that he’s not nearly as interested in you as he made it seem?

Today I’m going to show you how to spot a player.

First thing that you need to know is that there are two types of players:

1. Guys who are completely open and honest about what they’re looking for.

These guys are easy to spot, you just have to ask them what they’re looking for in a relationship. Usually, they’ll be very upfront with you. They’ll say things like; “I’m not looking for anything serious. I just want something casual.”
“I’m just looking to have fun. I don’t want a relationship right now.”And if you date a guy like this thinking this is going to change, won’t. If you date these guys, it’s your own fault because they’re willing to be upfront with you. You just need to listen to what they say.

The guys you need to really worry about is the second type…

2. Guys who lie, conceal, and manipulate to get you into bed with them.

Both of these guys have one thing in common, they know how to make you want them.
Most men are NOT players. If you think that most men are players, that’s because most of the men you are into are probably players. Alright, let’s talk about how to spot a sneaky, manipulative player, shall we? Since there ARE men who are players and you DO need to watch out for them, this is very important. Many of the things that would make someone a great long-term partner, these guys DON'T possess. In fact, the things that you’re probably the most attracted to aren’t any of the things that make a guy a good potential mate.

How does this help you spot a player? Simple:

As a woman, you have some level of intuition about whether a guy is being genuine or not. If you ignore this intuition because you feel so attracted to a guy that you really want to make it work out, you set yourself up for failure every time. Or worse, you fall in love with a guy’s potential.
“He’d be so perfect, if only he…”

This is a recipe for disaster.

If you meet a guy who seems perfect, take a step back for a moment. Listen to your intuition. Be real with yourself. Are you ignoring any red flags that you should pay attention to? And if you’re with a guy because of who he COULD BE some day in the future, stop lying to yourself. You’re settling. Players aren’t looking to settle down and have a real relationship. They don’t even understand WHY other men would WANT to be in a relationship. Or they’re broken and aren’t willing to deal with that area of their life right now. And you’re more likely to win the lottery four times in one year than you are to change his mind about what he wants. YOU’RE NOT GOING TO FIX HIM. He’s NEVER going to decide that you’re so awesome that he needs to fix himself for you. It’s just very unlikely. He needs to do this on his own. And if you’re giving him everything he needs (sexually, emotionally, etc.), he won’t have any motivation to get it together for you.

So, here’s the point:

Don’t date a broken man with the hope of who he will be some day. And pay attention to your intuition. Look for red flags and don’t ignore them because of how attracted you are to him. The things that make you attracted to him aren’t the same things that make him a good potential mate. 

Love Always, 
Seema Sammy. 

1 comment:

  1. Most women don’t know this... but even if a man is attracted to you or even says he loves you...

    ...chances are he still feels something is missing.

    Because there is a secret, emotional need hidden within his heart that he craves more than anything.

    And in most cases, is not being met.

    The problem is, if it’s not being met, his attention will inevitably wander until he finds a woman who can give it to him.

    Maybe one in a thousand women knows how to do this instinctively, and they usually rise to unbelievable levels of influence and fame.

    But most women, or men for that matter, don’t even know it exists.

    On the other hand, when you have this 1 simple secret...

    You won’t believe the shocking effect you have on the men in your life.

    Here’s a video I discovered that shows you exactly what I’m talking about:

    Here’s how: ==> He’ll give his heart to the first woman who does THIS... ]