Saturday, October 17, 2015

Stop Being Bullies

Dear Girls, 


It deeply concerns me that people think that fat people hating themselves and calling themselves stupid and ugly is better than embracing who they are and being happy.

Someone’s dress size has no bearing on whether or not they deserve happiness. Being a shitty person who bullies others into thinking they’re worthless because of their bodies has a bearing on whether or not you deserve happiness.
With that being said, try being a good human being! You'll like it. Thanks.

Have a great day my loves!

Love Always,
Seema Sammy. 

Thursday, October 15, 2015

You Are The Woman Of Your Own Dreams

 Dear Girls, 


I hope this powerful quote from Robin Lee penetrate your soul the same way it did mine.
 
 
"Repeat after me: I am the woman of my own dreams. I require no validation. My wish is my command. My life is my own. I build it. My voice is my own. I use it. I am relentless in my dedication to trusting myself. I am insatiable in my thirst for the extraordinary, and I do not settle for the mediocre.
I
Live
Without
Dead
Time."
—  Robin Lee
 
 
Have a wonderful Day my loves. 
 
Love Always, 
Seema Sammy. 
 

Wednesday, October 14, 2015

Be-YOU-Tiful

Dear Girls, 

I used to be so insecure about my body. I used hate the fact that I was bigger than all of my friends. I hated my stomach, my thighs, my arms, my stretch marks, etc...
But I’ve gotten so much better now. I smile when I see myself in the mirror and I'm still bigger than my friends. But, that's because I've replaced my insecurities with confidence. 

Of course there’s going to be days where you feel like shit, and don’t want to look at yourself. But there’s also days where you really appreciate yourself, including all your flaws.

Instagram and YouTube has helped me as well, teaching me that it’s okay not to be skinny, and that all body types are beautiful. Besides hating my body is not helping me in no way and I will never get back the present. I want to look back at my life and have happy memories flooding through my mind.

I've noticed that I like myself a lot more. I've stopped comparing myself to other girls as much. I used to be so scared that people would find me disgusting. But now I've learned that I'm more than other people’s opinions of me. if someone’s going to like me, they have to like me for who I am, not who they want me to be. 

Have a wonderful day my loves. 

Love Always, 
Seema Sammy.

Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Be gentle to your bodies

Dear Girls, 

At work yesterday, a woman  in her 50’s was showing a lady and I a beautiful photo of herself in a swim suit when she was in her late 20’s. Looking down at the photo she was smiling, but it wasn’t a happy smile, it was sort of sad, maybe a little on the fond side. 

She said "I remember when this photo was taken, I remember thinking how absolutely fat I looked." She continued "God I looked amazing. I didn’t see it then. I only see it now. My daughter freaked when she saw it, ‘Mom you were so hot!’ I was. I was hot. And I didn’t feel it. I didn’t see it.” 


I was having a hard time trying to keep myself together, really. Her expression was so genuine. For a brief moment I couldn’t bare to feel what she must have been feeling right then. Wishing she was kinder to herself. Gentler. I was .. stunned. 


It really stuck with me.  It’ll stick with me forever. It’s frightening what we can’t see in ourselves that others can.

Be gentle to your bodies. 

Love Always, 
Seema Sammy. 

Monday, October 12, 2015

You Are Beautiful


 Dear Girls, 

To be honest, the thing that infuriates me the most on a daily basis is when I see women making nasty comments about other women’s bodies on social media.
It’s bad enough when it comes from men but I can’t handle it when it comes from women. Every woman knows what it’s like to feel uncomfortable in their own skin or feel out of place or to not think very highly of themselves. So why on earth would you want to drag your sister, who’s in the same position you know all too well, down even further? It’s disgusting. Never feel the need to make disrespectful remarks about your sisters.  They are beautiful. You are beautiful.

 Have a blessed day my loves.

Love Always,
Seema Sammy. 

Saturday, October 10, 2015

Stop Being Cruel To Kids


Dear Girls, 

 It’s a shame how hard society is on children and teenagers who are the most fragile and susceptible to developing body image issues and mental disorders. Upon seeing a picture of myself at 16 today, I realized just how average and thin (compared to now) I was.

Now I was never skinny, but I was very, very average. Yet people, adults and peers alike, were good at reminding me that I was not skinny. I was constantly reminded that I was on the larger side, constantly told how “worried” they were about me, constantly being put down and called cruel things by some classmates, and even sometimes by family.

I see pictures of myself from back then and god do I wish that I had the body positivity that I have now. I’m twice the size I was then and I’m happier with myself than I ever dreamed I could be.
And in being happier, I’m making healthier choices in order to better myself, instead of punishing myself. There was never anything wrong with me, but I was told so often that I was unhealthy and unappealing that I was never happy.

Why on earth would people be so cruel to kids? Please reinforce to your (current and/or future) children that they are beautiful. That there is never anything wrong with them or with nourishing their body. Teach them to be kind to others. Teach them healthy habits - mental health included - and do not raise them to believe that they are worth anything less than the entire world.

Have a fantastic Saturday my loves.

Love Always,
Seema Sammy. 

Friday, October 9, 2015

You're Doing a Good Job.

Dear Girls, 

Shout out to all the transgender kids who have unsupportive families towards their identity.

To the ones who came out today.
To the ones who can’t come out.
To the ones who can’t dress how they want because of that.
To all the ones who aren’t financially stable enough for surgery.
To all the male to female kids. You’re fucking beautiful.
To all the female to male kids. You’re so handsome.
To all the genderfluid kids, You’re beautiful and handsome, you go.
To all the ones who constantly get misgendered. It hurts like hell, I know.
You’re still valid.
You are still valid.
Shout out to all the kids that didn't take their life today, and if you need a sign not to.. this is it. I’m here for you.
To the ones whose  families don’t believe that they’re not okay.
To the ones who got out of bed, that’s great.
and shout out to the ones who didn’t, that’s great too.
To the ones who ate today, good job.
And to the ones who are still fighting, look at you. You’re all fantastic. I promise it’s gonna get better.

 Have a fantastic day my loves.

Love Always,
Seema Sammy.

Thursday, October 8, 2015

It's a Journey

Dear Girls, 


I suffered with the ins and outs of eating disorder for a long time. I have my down days, but I'm definitely much more body positive than I use to be. 
I think that loving yourself is one of the most radical things you can do in a world constantly telling you it's wrong to do so. You don't need to be corrected. You don't need to think you're amazing all the time either. It's a journey and that's what is beautiful.
At least, that's what's been beautiful for me. I still get anxious or sad; but I'm always me and I'm pretty happy with that. I'm more than a number on a scale or how little tape I can wrap around my waist. 

Have a wonderful my loves.

Love Always, 
Seema Sammy.

Tuesday, October 6, 2015

Self Awareness

Dear Girls, 

                                       To Whom It May Concern

You don't know me and I don't know you. You have no right to judge me and neither do I.
I could do without your stares and giggles or your rude comments about me being a 'Fatass'. 
 
I don't need your validation, opinions and definitely not your close minded remarks. 
I am self aware, in fact I know that I'm fat. I can see when I walk how my legs jiggle or that I have a double-chin. 
 
So I urge you to be so self aware that you don't have to point and stare at me, that you can love your own reflection and not make me the subject of your attention. 

Have a wonderful day my loves. 

Love Always, 
Seema Sammy

Friday, October 2, 2015

You Deserve This

 Dear Girls, 

Every woman deserves a man who is proudly willing to proclaim to the world, "Yeah, she's my one and only. She's beautiful and she's mine." 


If you're going through a breakup and you think he's the one, he's not. He's just a lesson learned. A heartbreak is a blessing from God. It's just his way of letting you realize he saved you from the wrong one.

You will meet someone incredible for your life; just have patience and never settle for less because you deserve the best. 

God knows your heart's desire and if your heart desire is to get married,
He will provide you that mate. However do be mindful, He will provide you your future husband, 
only when the time is right. 

Have a blessed day my loves. 

Love Always, 
Seema Sammy.

Thursday, October 1, 2015

A WOMAN’S WORTH

Dear Girls, 

Please take a few minutes to read this! So worth it! 


A WOMAN’S WORTH

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: 'What kind of man are you looking for?' She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, 'Do you really want to know?' Reluctantly, he said, 'Yes. She began to expound, 'As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what you can do for me that I can't do for myself? I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man... or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, 'What can you bring to the table?' The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.

She quickly corrected his thought & stated, 'I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life. He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain. She said, 'I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man. I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden. I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man. I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God. I need someone whom I can respect... In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. And by the way, I am not looking for him...He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself.

When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, 'You are asking a lot. She replied, "I'm worth a lot".

Author- Unknown.


Have a wonderful day my loves! 

Love Always, 
Seema Sammy.