International Women's Day 2016

Dear Girls, 

  Feminism is not here to dictate you. It’s not prescriptive, it’s not dogmatic. All we are here to do is to give you a choice. Gender equality is your issue too. Both men and woman should feel free to be strong.

We talk about successful women, famous women, hardworking women, women who built their own careers, women who stood up for themselves. But let us not forget about those women who history never mentioned, those who couldn’t make it far enough to build a career because they preferred their kids too. Women who, sadly, were never able to stand up for themselves because society would push them down every time they try to.

Let us not forget about the women who left so many things to raise a man, and hopefully a very strong woman. Women who suffered in silence, women who the world took all their energy and left them with nothing. Women who were forced to give up life to satisfy a man, and to give birth to another.

Women who slept next to us every night we got sick in, women who cried to the thought of us hurt, women who worried when you were five minutes late. Women who gave us our world by giving up theirs.

In honor of international women's day, I decided to shine light on some of the issues we currently face as women. It's very sad that we live in 2016 and yet these issues are prevalent.

 -Women are being beaten by their husbands, mistreated by their fathers, and granted no  basic rights by the law.

-I still live in a world where child marriages exist, and rapes and sexual harassment are abundant.

-I still live in a world where it is okay to kill a woman for the sake of honor killing.

-I still live in a world where girls don't have education granted as widely as it is for boys.

-I still live in a world where a man's opinion matters more than that of a woman solely because he happens to be a man. 

To our mothers, to uneducated women, to women who once suffered, to women who got burned with acid because they refused to marry the man that asked them to, women who got raped because this world we live in is a fucking tragedy, women who their family forced them to keep their mouth shut because it would “cause a scandal”, women who have nothing, women who in the eyes of everyone are weak, when in fact; they’re the strongest. 

This day is for you, and it will get better. This day is about reminding everyone that all these things are not okay. This day is about striving for equality of the sexes. 

Happy international women's day. 

Stay Strong and keep fighting my loves. 

Seema Sammy. 

Message To Your Ex

Dear Girls, 

Message to My Ex. 

Please don't talk to me now. I have my life together now. I've fallen in love again, and this time, it's with myself. Your name never crosses my mind. Your memory no longer has a home in my heart. I'm finally happy after all these months of you wasting my time and wasting my heart. I am breaking free from you. I am done with you. So please, when you're lonely at 9 PM because all your friends are hooking up, don't look for me. So when you see me dancing at a party and having the time of my life, don't look at me as the 'one who got away' . Look at me as the 'one whom you let go'. Look at the girl who has pieced herself back together after you shattered her.

Have a great day my loves.

Love Always,
Seema Sammy.

Strange Reflections In A Mirror

Dear Girls, 

 Sometimes the insecure parts of my brain try to sneak in and take over like when I look in a mirror and see a full, extended belly or stretch marks or cellulite or thighs that seem bigger, a small part of me is sad and tries to obsess over it but the REAL me doesn’t give a shit about things like the strange reflections in a mirror.

So I laugh and make a big, satisfying dinner because I know I treat my body amazingly and however it wants to look at this stage in my life is fine by me as long as I am medically healthy and able to live freely.


Love Always,
Seema Sammy. 

Learning to Accept Love

Dear Girls, 

Before I start writing my blog, I'll like to apologize to the people that read my blog for not being consistent . Please bare with me as I figure out a schedule that works best.

Sometimes our emotions can get the best of us, they can drag us so far down to where we forget just what it is that once made us happy. Small steps they say, small steps to a happier road, well what if the road on which we walk is far too bumpy? No one can tell you that the feelings you have are wrong. For years I’ve struggled with people that don’t understand my pain, my hurt, my frustration, but I don’t blame them. Not everyone will feel as deeply about the things that you do, I try my very best to tell myself this, but to no avail I seem to foolishly fall back into my habits. These habits are habitually pushing people away, being angry, and sometimes overcome with an overwhelming sense of melancholy.

Is it normal to be chronically sad? To always feel like you’re going to burst at the seems and just fucking explode because you’ve constantly held back emotions that were far too strong just to shove away. Welcome to my mind, where I’m convinced that I feel nothing at all, where I can pretend that all I care about is myself, but then my heart has to remind me that I’m too sympathetic and emotional to be this bad ass that I sometimes portray myself to be. I feel too much, that’s my problem. 

There’s a place in my mind where sad memories dwell, they stay locked away, but ever so often they come out to play and plague my never resting thoughts. What is it like to be calm and collected ? To never feel rejected, to smile and actually mean it ? To be loved and actually feel it ? I’m learning to accept love, it’s not an easy task when you feel so undeserving of affection……

Love Always, 

Seema Sammy.

Be-YOU-Tiful

Dear Girls, 

I used to be so insecure about my body. I used hate the fact that I was bigger than all of my friends. I hated my stomach, my thighs, my arms, my stretch marks, etc...
But I’ve gotten so much better now. I smile when I see myself in the mirror and I'm still bigger than my friends. But, that's because I've replaced my insecurities with confidence. 

Of course there’s going to be days where you feel like shit, and don’t want to look at yourself. But there’s also days where you really appreciate yourself, including all your flaws.

Instagram and YouTube has helped me as well, teaching me that it’s okay not to be skinny, and that all body types are beautiful. Besides hating my body is not helping me in no way and I will never get back the present. I want to look back at my life and have happy memories flooding through my mind.

I've noticed that I like myself a lot more. I've stopped comparing myself to other girls as much. I used to be so scared that people would find me disgusting. But now I've learned that I'm more than other people’s opinions of me. if someone’s going to like me, they have to like me for who I am, not who they want me to be. 

Have a wonderful day my loves. 

Love Always, 
Seema Sammy.